Hot Seat: Let's Get Candid

[Goodie]

my expiry date

 

[Goodie]

@RajNi
Once the trust is broken, is it possible to rebuild it again!? How do you do

 

[Vanathi]

Solave illa

Unna paakkum podhellam mei marandhudren darlz

 

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Unna paakkum podhellam mei marandhudren darlz

 

[Eraser]

Unna paakkum podhellam mei marandhudren darlz

Nampiten nampiten darlz

 

[Balan72]

enakku wait panna porumai illa. so here it goes...

Neenga highway la Car drive pannitu irukkinga. Appo side la oru playground la oru Kid thaniya ball vechu vilaiyaaditu irukkan. Neenga avan vilaiyaadradha paarthu sirichittey drive pandringa. Anga oru turn varudhu, andha turn panninadhum dhan gavanikkaringa, oru 50 meters munnala, andha road la 8-10 kids play pannitu irukkanga.

Neenga pora speed ku break adicha, skid aagi andha road la kids mela modhiduvinga. Break podalanaalum eventually you will hit the kids. Neenga avangamela modha kudadhunu, turn pannina, the car will enter the playground and you will hit that single kid.

There is no other option. Enna pannuvinga?

i remember reading the same scenario in 2 railway tracks, one which is in regular use where a lonely boy plays on the track and another track not used where some 10 plus kids playing and you have the point to divert the train to whichever track.

 

[Nilaa]

i remember reading the same scenario in 2 railway tracks, one which is in regular use where a lonely boy plays on the track and another track not used where some 10 plus kids playing and you have the point to divert the train to whichever track.

Yes... railway track question.. that one kid than save seyanum antha question la. 10 kids escape ayduvanka automatically... upsc interview question... one of our chat users asked this once....

 

[Vanathi]

Yes... railway track question.. that one kid than save seyanum antha question la. 10 kids escape ayduvanka automatically... upsc interview question... one of our chat users asked this once....

There is no right answer to that question IMHO. it just tries to check our moral dilemma.
But for the greater good, most of us think that killing one kid is 'ok' to save the other 5. But the fact is, only that child is doing the correct thing and the other 5 were on a wrong track. ippadi thaan lifela good people are sacrificed to save a bunch of corrupted ones. Thats not correct but thats how it works.

 

[Nilaa]

There is no right answer to that question IMHO. it just tries to check our moral dilemma.
But for the greater good, most of us think that killing one kid is 'ok' to save the other 5. But the fact is, only that child is doing the correct thing and the other 5 were on a wrong track. ippadi thaan lifela good people are sacrificed to save a bunch of corrupted ones. Thats not correct but thats how it works.

Oh okie ...got it now....

but avar chat user ena sonarna,

always train vara track nu 10 kids alert ah irupanka.

Train varaatha track la iruka kid ku edhumey theriyathu.

So 10 kids iruka track la vidanum. Avanga therinju escape ayduvanka apdinu .

Moral dilemma iruka ithula ... got it ..

 

[RajNi]

@RajNi
Once the trust is broken, is it possible to rebuild it again!? How do you do

Yes, if genuine attempt to rebuild is made.
If I break someone's trust, I would apologise sincerely, give more time for them to accept me and make sure I never break it again.

Thanks @Goodie for these questions @Meen @Nilaa @Agnii @Mathangi @MASK @Aadhini It was fun ..

I tag @Nilaa

 

[Meen]

On behalf of @Goodie, (only because Goodie isnt here and @Nilaa wait pana koodathu nu) I will ask the first question

To @Nilaa
Hypothetical situation,
Neenga pothuva oru forgiving person, unga life la you had seen betrayal many times and yet you have given them chance, and apidi chance kuduthavanga sila per they have regained your trust as well.
Now, unga close friend oda wedding la irukeenga, unga friend ku rombo naal kalichu elaa plans um correct ah amaiyuthu, and she is so excited and happy to start her life. Unga friend and avanga family rombo obstacles (financial, emotional, etc) elaam thaandi intha kalyaanam nadakuthu.

Now on this important day, you see her, rendu perum rombo happy and mukiyama intha important day la neenga anga irukrathu unga friend ku rombo happy. Apo thaan neenga antha maapilai ah paakreenga. He is one of the person from your past, who has cheated you, betrayed your trust, avangala neenga forgive paninaalum he didnt come back to you coz avar ungala important ah nenaikala. Now he is standing there, and you have 1 hour before the wedding happens, elaarum vanthutaanga.

If you tell your friend about him, the way he cheated, the wedding will stop, spoiling the dreams of your friend, ruining her life and her family's name. Unga friend may be maniklaam avana thinking it is past, but cheat paninathu ungala nu therinja she will never forgive him and definitely want to cancel the wedding even if it means she cannot ever marry again.

If you dont tell your friend about him, the wedding will go on, your friend will be very happy, her family will be happy, everything will go smoothly.
But for how long? There is a good chance he might still cheat your friend after marriage.

Would you say or not say?

 

[Nilaa]

On behalf of @Goodie, (only because Goodie isnt here and @Nilaa wait pana koodathu nu) I will ask the first question

To @Nilaa
Hypothetical situation,
Neenga pothuva oru forgiving person, unga life la you had seen betrayal many times and yet you have given them chance, and apidi chance kuduthavanga sila per they have regained your trust as well.
Now, unga close friend oda wedding la irukeenga, unga friend ku rombo naal kalichu elaa plans um correct ah amaiyuthu, and she is so excited and happy to start her life. Unga friend and avanga family rombo obstacles (financial, emotional, etc) elaam thaandi intha kalyaanam nadakuthu.

Now on this important day, you see her, rendu perum rombo happy and mukiyama intha important day la neenga anga irukrathu unga friend ku rombo happy. Apo thaan neenga antha maapilai ah paakreenga. He is one of the person from your past, who has cheated you, betrayed your trust, avangala neenga forgive paninaalum he didnt come back to you coz avar ungala important ah nenaikala. Now he is standing there, and you have 1 hour before the wedding happens, elaarum vanthutaanga.

If you tell your friend about him, the way he cheated, the wedding will stop, spoiling the dreams of your friend, ruining her life and her family's name. Unga friend may be maniklaam avana thinking it is past, but cheat paninathu ungala nu therinja she will never forgive him and definitely want to cancel the wedding even if it means she cannot ever marry again.

If you dont tell your friend about him, the wedding will go on, your friend will be very happy, her family will be happy, everything will go smoothly.
But for how long? There is a good chance he might still cheat your friend after marriage.

Would you say or not say?

@Meen

let me see this from my friend's side :

if i tell about my past with him, she might stop the marriage coz of her affection with me. or she will lost trust and stop the marriage...

let me see this from my side :

avara manichu maranthuten.... revenge eduka ninaikla.... oruvela unmaya avar avala like seilaam. but ena vitutu pona madhri after marriage avala cheat senjutarna ena seirathu.... ava epdi ithai thaanguvaa

conclusion :

marriage stop ana kastam than elarukum...

but marriage nadantha en friend life long happy ah irupala theriyathu...

risk eduka koodathu.... ithu oru ponnoda athum en friend oda life ...

en friend kita ellam soliduven. ava future enaku mukyam. decision ava edukatum nu vitruven.

 

[Meen]

en friend kita ellam soliduven. ava future enaku mukyam. decision ava edukatum nu vitruven.

Good, but unga friend point of view epidi irukum na,
Appa amma evalo kashta pattu kadan vaangi intha kalyanam nadathraanga. ivalo selavu, elaarukum kashtam namma tharanuma? apidiye ivana venda nu soleetu vera yaraachu kalyanam panina, avanga unmai ah irupaanga nu enna nichayam? Nila ilaama vera oru ponna iruntha enaku ithu therinjurukave therinjurukaathe? And neraya pasangaluku ex love elaam irukum, athu epidi vena iruklaam, neraya per marriage ku aprom maaridraanga thaane? Ithu avalo periya vishyame ila, poga poga seri aagirum.
Aana, ivan emaathina ponnu Nilaa, en friend, ivana kalyanam panina ava face ah epidi paapen? yaaro theriathavanukaaga en life long friend ah naa epidi miss panuven? Seri kalyanatha niruthuvom, intha kadan elaam adachu again kaasu seka epidiyum 4-5 years aagum, athuku aprom mudinja kalyanam paniklaam. Above 30s la irukra ponungaluku India la maapilai easy ah kedaikaathu, but paravaala enoda fate ithaan.

@Nilaa do you agree? apidi ilai na, neenga unga friend oda role la iruntha epidi yosipeenga?

 

[Agnii]

@Nilaa i think you are searching for this meme

 

[Nilaa]

Good, but unga friend point of view epidi irukum na,
Appa amma evalo kashta pattu kadan vaangi intha kalyanam nadathraanga. ivalo selavu, elaarukum kashtam namma tharanuma? apidiye ivana venda nu soleetu vera yaraachu kalyanam panina, avanga unmai ah irupaanga nu enna nichayam? Nila ilaama vera oru ponna iruntha enaku ithu therinjurukave therinjurukaathe? And neraya pasangaluku ex love elaam irukum, athu epidi vena iruklaam, neraya per marriage ku aprom maaridraanga thaane? Ithu avalo periya vishyame ila, poga poga seri aagirum.
Aana, ivan emaathina ponnu Nilaa, en friend, ivana kalyanam panina ava face ah epidi paapen? yaaro theriathavanukaaga en life long friend ah naa epidi miss panuven? Seri kalyanatha niruthuvom, intha kadan elaam adachu again kaasu seka epidiyum 4-5 years aagum, athuku aprom mudinja kalyanam paniklaam. Above 30s la irukra ponungaluku India la maapilai easy ah kedaikaathu, but paravaala enoda fate ithaan.

@Nilaa do you agree? apidi ilai na, neenga unga friend oda role la iruntha epidi yosipeenga?

@Meen

Correct...

Friend's view:

Marriage ku neraya selavu agiruku than. Amma appa evlavo asaigaloda neraya invest senjirukanka ithula. Again intha amount elam serthu/dues elam sari senju, kalyanam aga 30 31 agidum.

Elarukum oru ex story irukum. Ivara panuna therinju kinathula kuthikramnu artham. Inoruthar kalyanam senja avar nalavara irukar ila athu okiee.

Ithula Nila va face seirathelam oru vishayam ila. Ava as a friend ah purunjupa..

But intha kadan elam vanki ipdi oruthar senjomna, nalaiku court case nu evlo selavu akum. Ipo kalyanam Nina feel seiratha vida amma appa future la udanju povanka. Apo itha vida jasthe waste akum . Avlo easy ah divorce vera kidaikathu..

Pothu karuthu :

30 ku mela mapla kidaikatha athey India la than , kalyanam ninu pona, athey mandapathula irurka yarayachum puduchu Kati vechuduvanka.... apdi oruthara senjuta kuda onum thapu ila.

Antha maapilai college friend ah family friend ah irukalam. Nila oda annan ah kuda irukalam
Nila oru vela, ava annan ah en friend ah kalyanam sei nu kuda solalam.

Conclusion : kalyanam nina selavu ana kasu than pokum.. nadantha life poga chances jasthe.... after 30 kuda kalyanam seilam .. or kalyanathuku vantha oru therinja payana kalyanam panlam. Avan nalavana ketavana elam yosika venda.. ninu pona marriage la oruthankluku life tharavar sure ah konjam nalavara irupar.

Ithu cinema or story madhre irukalam. But life la edukra decision mukyam. Therinju vila kudathu.

 

[Nilaa]

@Agnii annanuku nila kataya kalyanam senju vaika mata. Athanala pathara kudathu

 

[Agnii]

ninu pona marriage la oruthankluku life tharavar sure ah konjam nalavara irupar.

Or, oorellam ponnu thedi, yaarum ponnu kodukkama, nondhu noodles aagi, ipdi oru opportunity kedachirukke, try pannidhan parpome nu volunteer ah varravara kuda iruppar

 

[Nilaa]

Or, oorellam ponnu thedi, yaarum ponnu kodukkama,

Point... Oorelam ponu thedi, yarum kuduklana, avara option la irunthu thukiduvom

 

[Agnii]

@Agnii annanuku nila kataya kalyanam senju vaika mata. Athanala pathara kudathu

Andha ponnu Poornima va irundha, adhu kattaiya kalyanam category la vandhirukkadhu

 

[Goodie]

@Nilaa
Hindu succession act of 2005 padi, after the death of a father, his property goes to his children and wife.

A question from a kid, " atheppadi women mattum getting share from her father as well as her husband"

Idhuku unga pathil enna?